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You will probably always fail at dieting and that’s OK
Have you ever been on a strict diet, followed it religiously for months, and then suddenly some external circumstances prompted you to quit prematurely? How did that make you feel? Did you feel like a total failure? Did the voice in your head tell you that you suck, that your will is too weak, and that you’ll never reach your goal weight or your desired shape? Did you blame yourself for always coming up with […]
Listen to Your Gut
Several years ago, I started to develop pain in my joints. It wasn’t strong at first, but still alarming, as I had never had symptoms like this before. Something in my gut told me that there was an underlying issue going on with my health. Doing what most people would do, I went to my doctor and he said it sounded like rheumatoid arthritis. I couldn’t believe it because starting at a very young age, […]
Self-Love: The Missing Key
Something that I’ve run into a lot with my clients is that they feel lost. They know that something just isn’t right, but they can’t put their finger on it. A lot of these clients have issues with food but when they’ve gone to see someone to help them, they leave with a list of restrictions. They follow the lists and find that they have even more issues with food or they end up feeling […]
Are you a healthy eater or a suicide bomber?
What does it mean to be a healthy eater? Is it all about what you eat? About the quality of the food that you consume? About what nutrients it contains? About its origins – whether it’s organic, whole, and unprocessed or it’s artificially manufactured, GMO, and has no actual nutritional value? Could it also be about how you feel about what you eat? Could it be about what you think about your eating behaviors? Whether […]
What to do if you’re an emotional eater?
If you’ve ever struggled with any eating disorder, you’re certainly no stranger to overwhelm. From the social stigma to the excruciating awkwardness of hearing friends and relatives discuss your weight, from the abundance of online and offline tips and tricks, instructing you what to do and not to do if you want to tame your beasts, to the impossibility of knowing all of your triggers, it’s a God damn jungle out there. And if you […]
The Magic Three: Mind, Body and Soul
I was always a skinny girl, however when I went to High School I stopped doing any sports, I was not conscious of what I was eating and I started to gain weight. After a certain time it started to bother me, and I went through all the different kind of diets. You don’t need much time to get into the habit to count calories all day long and then feel ashamed when you eat […]
Hey Kimberley Maxey- HappyBalance Coach….
As a woman who has been met with numerous health challenges over the years, from depression, to endometriosis, food intolerances and IBS, and then battling the struggles of life as a single parent, finding a balance in life to look after my health and wellness, hasn’t just been necessary…..it’s been the ‘absolute key ingredient’ that’s lead me to a HappyBalanced lifestyle whilst raising kids with ADHD and Autism. But getting there- sure has been an […]
How My Inner Resources Rescued Me
We are often too far away from our own inner self. Due to this, we tend to look for answers on the outside and this often leaves us disappointed and dejected. Our own inner resources are extremely rich inside but we still look outside of ourselves without trying to look inside ourselves. It’s very important to develop this skill of examining ourselves, the sooner we do it, the better. People sometimes name it a passion […]
It’s not a bug, it’s a feature
I’ve had a turbulent relationship with food since I was 12. Whenever I’d face a challenging situation in my life – I’d turn to food for consolation. Whenever I’d get stressed, overwhelmed, scared, insecure, or just hurt, I’d reach for food as it would always provide a “safe place.” Such compulsive behavior is what happens when you need the familiarity of something predictable. And even though food has actually made me feel worse about myself […]
Our Thoughts Can Hold Us Back or Set Us Free—We Hold that Power…
As Marc said Personal Power = Metabolic Power. So true. When we get out of our limiting thoughts and stop pushing and forcing our bodies and instead let our life’s purpose gently unfold we experience a harmony within us, one another, and the whole world. In harmony our bodies respond by giving us our true weight and metabolism. Now is the time to rid our minds of the distractions that prevent us from living our […]
Ending The Cycle Of Pain
I was a drug addict before I learned to walk. The nurse that took care of my twin sister and I drugged us so we wouldn’t cry. My voice was snuffed out from the very beginning. This was the inception of the perpetual sadness, and the belief that I don’t belong and that I had no voice, that would follow me for years. When you find something in the world that irks you and then […]
Thoughts, Don’t Kill My Vibe
I have a question for you. What role does judgment play in your day, or your life? Do you judge food, or other’s food, or your body, or clothes, or looks? What I have found, while working with people and being a woman with lots of female friends, is that judgment creeps in. Do you have any “shoulds” showing up in your thoughts or your words? I understand ambition. I understand wanting to be, do […]
Love Like a Mother
When I was a teen and looked at myself in the mirror, I was always disappointed. My hips were too big and completely covered in cellulite and stretch marks. My nose, huge; my chest, too small, my skin, too pale. I had no coordination nor grace. My mother was sick. My parents divorced. I worked super hard in school so my grades would give some numerical value to a life that I considered embarrassing. I […]
Self Care vs. Self Sabotage – How to know the difference between ‘Treat Yo Self’ and ‘Going Overboard’
I’m the Queen of “Everything in Moderation.” Since I used to personally struggle with binge eating, it’s still really important for me not to feel restricted around food in any way. If I start judging myself about what I’m eating, or tell myself to not eat something, I’ll be the first to admit that I’m definitely going to eat it. There are instances where I work with clients, and I feel like it would be […]
Imagine what you could create…
My mission and my passion is helping people transform their relationship with food, because I know that when they do, they have more energy, they are more present and productive in all aspects of their life, and they are able to step into a joyful experience. I know this because this is my story. You see, I used to have a very toxic relationship with food. I struggled through many years of dieting. I was […]
The Paradox of Change: why rushing to get there slows us down
The desire to change is natural – we grow up, mature, our circumstances change, we learn stuff and want to apply it to our lives, so we can live better and be happier. We make huge efforts to transform into better versions of ourselves. We envision how much better we’d feel if we accomplished certain results – if we had more money, if our bodies looked better, if we got that dream job. We condition […]
Can You Live With the Possible?
What does your relationship with discomfort look like? Does it lead you to some unhealthy habits? If those questions make you cringe a little bit, that’s normal. I used to love playing it safe. Saving every penny. Settling in my relationships and jobs, being “fine” with accepting less. I have post-traumatic stress from a childhood incident. My mom has mental health issues and after my father passed away unexpectedly in 2007, I was 23 and […]
Use Your Best China
Think about the meals you eat at home. Do you eat your dinner on the couch? Do you consume your breakfast while preparing for the day? Do you forgo crockery to save the washing up and eat straight from the saucepan? Now, think about when you have guests over. How is your table set? Do you pull out grandma’s special tablecloth? Do you bring out linen napkins or those napkin rings you love, but never […]
How You Finally Lose Weight
How’d you finally lose the weight you ask…Well I Finally Stopped Trying For over 40 years of my life on this magnificent planet, I was on a diet. I body shamed myself into more diets than honestly, I think are even out there. Back in the day, I was a human points calculator. Obsessing about how many points I was over most days and critiquing my unsuccessful, frustrating dieting day lulled me to sleep every […]
Beyond the Plate: The Practice of Using Food as Inspiration
My relationship with food resembles an extreme roller coaster. I’ve struggled with excruciatingly painful emotional eating since I was about 13. Food has had a central role in my life since I can remember, it controlled and impacted my mind and behavior for a very long time. Food was my escape. Or so I thought. I realized way too late that food was never the problem, it was the perceived solution to problems in other […]
The Magic of Mind Body Nutrition and Eating Psychology
I grew up very skinny and ate every junk food within my reach without any considerable weight gain, until I had my first child. Only then did I realize I could not fit into my clothes any longer. My journey of appropriate weight for me began as I tried every diet possible with little or no results. Soon enough, I finally learnt about the elimination diet and took out the food I was allergic to […]
Finding Peace in Trauma and Uncertainty
I live in a body I honor and respect. I have a healthy and transformed relationship with my body and myself. Taking great pride in the journey that is my life, today I give grateful thanks for my human form that has been magnificently created. I appreciate all that I have, and I remind myself that I have so much. I have lived on three separate continents. South Africa, Hong Kong and Israel. In 2004, […]
The Practice of Eating
One of the quotes that I learned during the IPE Coach Certification Training that resonated with me was: “How we eat is just as important as what we eat.” Before I heard this saying, I was consumed by nutrition facts and was obsessed with only eating foods that I had decided were “good” for me and felt awful about myself when I slipped and ate foods that I decided were “bad” for me. How I […]
The Life-Changing Magic Of Slowing Up
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been an energetic and busy person. I played three sports in high school, was in all the honors classes, barrelled through my Bachelor’s degree in record time, traveled as much as possible upon graduating, moved, and was constantly pushing myself onto the next thing. This was my life for so many years. However, just how Life tends to do, it got my attention in a big way, […]
The Heart and Soul of Eating Psychology (It’s about so much more than food!)
I never in a million years imagined the magnitude of the soul journey I would embark on when I signed up to complete a certificate in Eating Psychology Coaching, uncovering all of the non-food related matters I need to attend to in my life. In so many ways, this deep inner self-work is not for the faint of heart, but ultimately it’s what we need to do if we truly want to reach a place […]