Compassion with self is so important in the different changes we may go through in personal transformation. When I first gave up dieting (before I met the Institute for the Psychology of Eating, I had been on a diet for over 20 years) I felt more secure about my change in mindset. Sure, when I initially reached that “magical” number through a weight loss program I was on a temporary high. But I soon found that number didn’t actually provide the lasting feeling of happiness and contentment I was searching for. Because true happiness comes from within.
However; as I continue this work to love myself as I am and find true happiness and contentment in what currently is, I find myself getting impatient. Why is it so hard to stay true to myself and my new values? If I’m totally honest, lately I often find myself in a bit of a conflict. Maybe I should count calories so I will stay committed to not eating my feelings (or having more than one glass of wine) after a long, trying day with the kiddos!? What if I don’t end up losing the excess fat that my doctor says will come off after I get my dental work done and detox from mercury toxicity.
But then I remember the truth -I now know these worries that crop up are merely a reminder that something else is out of balance and needs addressing. It’s just a sign that I still have things to learn and no amount of controlling my weight will bring me the answers I truly seek. I’d rather find the way to maintain my current weight and also enjoy my life, than keep yo-yo dieting and obsessing over a number on the scale.
I am grateful that I have amazing mentors in my life to remind me of this amazing new way of seeing weight and eating challenges. Dynamic Eating Psychology changed my entire life. What I was doing wasn’t working. I don’t really want to hate myself into a physical change. What I am doing now, learning to trust my body and find what does work long term is what I am committed to. And deep down I know I can trust this new way of relating to food and body.
The stages of metamorphosis can be messy, but the butterfly that emerges only shows beauty. And sometimes it’s just a matter of being patient until your wings are ready.
Jen Seiter
Empathetic.Caring.Sensitive.
ABOUT JEN
I am now a Mind Body Eating Coach, trained by the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. I work to help people who have a challenge with eating, weight and health. I’m so excited to share a powerful, new breakthrough approach with as many people as possible.
My work with Dynamic Eating Psychology addresses the ever-growing challenge of Eating and Weight concerns. This exciting new approach is positive and empowering. In the past, Eating Psychology was limited to those with eating disorders. But Dynamic Eating Psychology is for everyone. Dynamic Eating Psychology is a powerful breakthrough approach that affirms our challenges with eating, weight and health are closely connected to other primary dimensions of life -relationships, family, work, sexuality, our search for meaning and fulfillments, and so much more.
This new approach completely transformed my mindset toward dieting. Now rather than seeing weight and eating challenges as a problem, I see them as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. I was a lifelong dieter who had a completely disordered relationship with food. Since I have been able to completely transform my development with food, I know this approach works.