Coaches’ Blog

Advocate and Diplomat

Recently I underwent a personality test and the results were Advocate personality type. The first paragraph explained this as a very rare personality, making up less than 1% of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. Advocates tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to […]

I am what I am

About two years after my second daughter was born in 2001, I put on a lot of weight. I remembered the feeling during school volleyball practice, after a hard warm up, feeling like I was toast, that after some water and catching my breath, I was able to go on for another 2 hour practice. So once again, I worked out really hard, recorded everything I ate and drank and was in the back in […]

Awakening the Sacred Masculine

I spent childhood and early adulthood obese. This made me look, feel, and behave differently from the other boys and eventually men. I loved my sisters and my mother deeply, and felt distance from my father, who was physically present but emotionally distant. Even though I played with trucks, video games, watched wrestling, and played every sport, I lived my life rejecting masculinity in the world and myself. I saw toxic masculinity everywhere and I […]

Organically Healthy Workout

I had an amazing experience at the gym this morning and wanted to write about it. What happened? I worked out. The amazing part was, I didn’t compare my body to other bodies and feel embarrassed or ashamed while I worked out. I actually had the thought during one set of reps that I love my strong legs and I wouldn’t want them to get smaller. There was a sense of contentment that allowed me […]

Sliding Doors

I was recently on a plane with several hours to kill. My head was hard against the window, desperate for sleep but uncomfortable at every angle. My mind drifted as sleep was unfortunately not an option. Thoughts wandered back through time, and I imagined my life like the movie Sliding Doors. I reflected back to when I was around 16, when I first developed Anorexia Nervosa. I began to imagine how my life would have […]

Can’t Stop Eating? Read This IMMEDIATELY

WARNING: This article is entirely devoid of magic-pill type fixes, such as a brand new fad diet, juice fast, or detox. But I do have some mental tools for change that you can start using right now if you feel you can’t stop eating. If you experience times when you are out of control around food, I have a strategy for you to feel better about it immediately, and not in some wishy-washy, paper-over-the-cracks ‘just […]

Pause for a while!

When a client comes to me and they have struggle with their weight or they face eating challenges, I often ask them about their bigger dream or the legacy that they want to leave behind. We need to pause in life, when we are overloaded or bombarded with problems. It is often like drinking water when you are tempted to eat something when you are not hungry. Relax, sit down, and re-evaluate your life. Where […]

No Willpower? NOW You Can Curb Your Sugar Cravings

One of the most toxic myths in the world of health (and indeed self-help) is that of the wonder of willpower. We have put it on a pedestal, given it superhero status and pray at its altar every time we want to make any significant change. If you are using willpower to fight a losing battle with your sugar cravings, then read on. I am about to take that willpower off its pedestal and replace […]

Skinniexia

Twenty six ago, when I was 16, my mum took me to our doctor. He measured my height and then asked me to stand on the scales. He then asked me to have a look at my stomach. He pointed out a coat of extremely fine body hair covering my skin, which he called lanugo. The doctor told my mother and I that I had Anorexia Nervosa. He simply told my mum to buy me […]

Hidden Rules and Messages

The more I dare to dive into relaxation when it comes to my body and my relationship with food, the more I notice the thousands of hidden rules and messages that are still spinning in my system. I am amazed of how rude, destructive, yet stupid they are at the same time. And I get sad when I realize how much of my energy, my life and my time I have wasted to let myself […]

When Healthy Eating is No Longer Healthy…

A new type of eating disorder is emerging where people are becoming obsessed with eating to improve their health.  As an Eating Psychology Coach, I deal with a range of eating disorders – anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, over-eating and body image concerns. But most of my clients recently haven’t even realized what their eating problem was exactly. Some initially come to see me because they want to eat healthier, or lose more weight, or cease […]

Trusting Truth over Thoughts

I use to believe that health came from outside of me. That the foods I ate, the way and frequency that I moved, and how well I was accepted and received by those around me would bring me a healthy state of being. Once food and exercise and outward acceptance were no longer a focus, and I still found myself struggling I realized that I was never going to feel safe in my skin, I […]

From Fear to Love

As I sat there gazing at my plate of Caesar Salad, pasta and side of pretzels, there was this eerie sensation that I was indeed making progress. After all, pasta has been on my avoid list for almost 10 years and pretzels are something I sneak as I walk into the pantry and hope no one notices. Here I was sitting with a lit candle, placemat and gentle music. This actually felt pleasurable. I cannot […]

The Story Your Body Tells

About a week ago my daughter asked me to put on my wedding dress. Amused by the idea, I put it on but I couldn’t do it up! Normally that would have made me upset and sent me into a tailspin about my diet and exercise, the “what am I doing wrong” or “what am I not doing enough of” head game. But this time it was different. Instead of jumping out of my body, […]

From Restriction to Lightness

These days, it always takes me a moment to really feel what kind of relationship with food I have now. Because it has turned into a subtle, very dignified and light flow of loving energy. It´s almost like a true friendship that fills your heart with joyful love, yet never pushes itself to the fore. To me, this really feels like a miracle! Not only was I convinced for so many years that I may […]

Finding Self Nourishment

In my very early 20’s, at supposedly some of the best years of my life, I was hospitalized on three different occasions for chronic anorexia. The first time I was told my potassium levels were dreadfully low and that I could have died. I was never put on a drip, but I was skeletal and very sick. In those days there wasn’t a hospital or ward for patients with anorexia or eating disorders. I went […]

How to Turn Your Eating Challenge Into An Adventure

To make any big change with our eating challenges – and indeed health – there is a fundamental mindshift that has to take place. This is to move from struggle to adventure. The struggle mindset says “To shed this weight I need to punish and deprive myself. I don’t have the necessary willpower to make this change a natural part of my life. Therefore I must be my own drill sergeant/prison guard/irate headteacher, and constantly […]

Finally Freedom

After being a Body Oriented Psychotherapist for more than 25 years, I had to face the fact that there were some areas of my own reality that I totally ignored. I had been yo-yo dieting since I was 23 and for me the problem was not that I could not lose weight…but I could not keep it off. From Cetonic to the Paleo diets, from Acupuncture to Homeopathy, from Yoga to Pilates, I tried every […]

Releasing Rejection

It’s New Year’s Eve and I’m beyond excited and incredibly grateful for the year that was, and more so for the year that will be! But 5 days ago on Boxing Day I was feeling the complete opposite. I was probably the bluest I have been in around 10 years, since I broke up with my son’s father just 3 weeks after he was born. I woke up and for the first time in almost […]

The Chef Who Couldn’t Eat

It was a summer Saturday like all the others. I had spent the day manning my popular farmers’ market stall on the small island where I lived, selling homemade wood-fired oven bread, jams, and chutneys made from local produce to islanders and tourists. I worked hard but I loved it! I went home that afternoon with a bit of a sore throat but decided to go out to a friend’s party anyway. It was cold […]

Opening Your Can of Emotions

For 25 years my life centered around self-loathing, starvation, bingeing and purging. Now fully recovered, I understand that bulimic bingeing and vomiting, like anorectic starvation, is a traumatic experience that can stimulate a deep survival mechanism; the release of endorphins, which are the powerful, natural drug like chemicals that allow us to experience pleasure. These established and deep-seated powerful compulsions that I was suffering with, felt seemingly helpless to fight. The sense of numbness I […]

Finding my Feminine

There once was a little girl who grew up in what seemed to be your everyday normal dysfunctional family. She was the youngest out of 4 kids, her parents were divorced, and she was none the wiser as to how healthy families were supposed to function. Without falling in love with the person every little girl should have as their first great love, her father, she was desperate to be told she was lovely, she […]

A Healer’s Journey

In my 20’s, all I could think about was what I would eat next. I ate for all the wrong reasons. Then I became very sick for 20 years and couldn’t digest my food. I used to gorge myself with food and then almost everything I ate caused a reaction. I became fearful of food for very different reasons. Also, I couldn’t get food through me, due to four prolapses that were repeatedly misdiagnosed. I […]

Joy Bunny Returns

I am a Joy Bunny, similar to a Fun Fairy, sprinkling joy to all those who are willing to receive. Even though I was born this way, I became lost in the briar patch of life because of challenging events or comments from others. Others’ opinions of me filled my head, and my self-talk became negative and I questioned my worthiness. In addition, as a wife and a stay at home mom, I believed that […]

When I Decided to Heal

When I was nine years old, I decided that I was too chubby and needed to go on a diet. First, it was all about not eating at night, then it became about exercise and later it went into full-on restriction of all kinds of food. When I was 23 years old, I landed in a treatment facility because my body was slowly giving up and so was my psyche. As a result of struggling […]