Recently I underwent a personality test and the results were Advocate personality type.
The first paragraph explained this as a very rare personality, making up less than 1% of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. Advocates tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all. Highlighted role: Diplomat. When I got to the career section I realised I was ready to share this with you.
“First and foremost, Advocates need to find meaning in their work, to know that they are helping and connecting with people – an Advocate Ferrari salesperson is a non-sequitur. This desire to help and connect makes careers in healthcare, especially the more holistic varieties, very rewarding for Advocates -roles as counselors, psychologists, doctors, life coaches”.
I felt validated after reading this and this is part of my Why:
As a child, all I have ever wanted to be is an angel, a peace giver, healer, and light for the world.
But to even get to where I am today, has not been an easy task.
I entered into a broken family, the only child from a short term abusive relationship which has left decades of pain for many. I never felt wanted or that I had a voice; a right to speak. My step father’s favourite words were “Children should be seen and not heard”. The instability during childhood included 14 changes in schools, peers surviving each day looking towards the weekend of alcohol, drugs, partying and numbing themselves for the week that followed. The consequences for a child in this environment can lead to a variety of abuse, invoking daily fear and preparing the mind, body, heart and soul for flight, fight, or withdrawal responses.
While I was developing and believing this was normal, my introvert and private personality knew it wasn’t. My holistic health started to suffer at a young age, but the high cortisol kept me moving. I left home at 14 and survived by becoming a live-in nanny for ladies in the escort service and attending St John’s Catholic College every day. As you can imagine the dynamics were incredibly challenging at times but still it was an opportunity to grow as a human being.
I remember watching one of these ladies so obsessed about her weight and what she looked like, she didn’t have a problem sticking her fingers down her throat to make herself vomit before she went to work. I only began to wonder later how she could do that in-front of me. Was it because she knew I loved her unconditionally and didn’t judge her or because the line of speed she had prior prevented her from really acknowledging what she was doing in-front of a 15 year old.
CURE = Compassion, Understanding, Recognition, Encouragement
The above is a small part of my experience and where I have had the opportunity and honour to empathise and grow, while experiencing the rawness of pain, the depth hurt can take people and some of what people struggle with everyday. I would like to be a testament of healing, of grace, of love, after experiencing my own eating challenges, self-esteem issues, negative mindsets and beliefs about myself and the world, ill health and the coping mechanisms that followed.
It is possible to live your purpose in life, even after blinding darkness. And time does heal with the right guidance, support, knowledge and wisdom. What is Nutrition to You (winty) is my opportunity to ask people to identify with what this means to them holistically. And if your answer does not represent your current life, this is the best place to start.